Let’s begin this with a verse from the Bible: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 | NIV
You think something epic is about to happen or someone is about to tell you something that can change your life forever and you are so anxious, so curios, scratching, itching, thinking, smiling, can’t wait to know, to hear, to see, for it to come…
YOU better calm down! and relax. Though it’s pretty hard but it’s BETTER NOT TO GET YOUR HOPES UP…
Getting your hopes up is not the best; it leaves room for disappointment, heartbreak and change of mood: what if what you wanted to hear didn’t come out of the person’s mouth? What you couldn’t wait to see isn’t brought? That expectation that would change your entire life suddenly couldn’t happen …
It’s like getting all pretty and ready for a date only to get disappointed. Stood up. It stings.
Being optimistic isn’t a bad thing in fact it makes you work harder towards that thing you are hoping for.
But Pessimism should also be applied.
I’ll drag my good old phrase into this “get your heart ready” it works every time. Prepare yourself for the worst, outline everything that can go wrong in that thing you are doing; keep your mind on it and start working from there. Start working from the south, from the bad, from the disappointment and it will ease any big blow coming your way.
Especially when it is an expectation from someone, if somebody is in control or when it isn’t in your hands: It is always BETTER NOT TO GET YOUR HOPES UP.
Crashing someone’s eager hopes can lead to depression and unhappiness; nobody likes that feeling and most times it is inevitable. Disappointment is something we have to go through in life and at the end of the day all these makes us stronger but some are not worth it… just a waste of emotions or time. Or due to a faulty plan.
So, when you plan, plan with the good and bad aspect of it, when something new comes your way; keep the good and bad aspect in mind, it might not change everything a hundred percent but it will mellow the percentage of disappointment or heartbreak that you might get from the bitter result of it.
If your hope is shattered, always take solace in the word of God, as written in the Book of Psalms: “Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.”
Key solutions to avoid heartbreak and disappointment.
